So in this week’s episode of “so you couldn’t have just scrolled on by to something you were looking for” we have triggered a grown man into a comment about sound from a picture.

You may want to have a sit down, I know I do.

I was having a chat with Artistic (who is amazing, if you know you know) and she suggested that we try and apply our style of pics to some solo shots of Mr. I loved the idea and began asking him. I pointed him to the easycheese’s profile (the lady boner maker himself) to get an idea of what I thought would be cool.

He took some persuading but while I was at work I noticed new files dropping into the shared folder we use for this stuff. When I got a break I had a sneaky look and I was really happy. Not all good but that’s part of the process we always have. When I got back, I edited a few and asked about posting them (consent, ppl! -always). He was a bit hesitant, saying that people more want what we normally do. He said it won’t get the same response and I said, I know and it’s fine. He suggested that maybe I take a few with the same guitar and mix them in too. So I got a few shots too, edited them and posted.

Some nice early interest and we went to bed smiley.

Morning communication can be fuzzy in this household as we start work at different times. So I hadn’t spoken to Mr before I read this gem of a comment:-

“Forget all about that macho shit and learn how to play a guitar”.

I wondered immediately if we had encountered this person before as I didn’t know the name. I went into our PMs, nothing in the inbox - I went into the outbox.....fuck. Mr has already seen and sent a message about it. Annoyed as I wanted to get ahead of that, delete the comment etc. So I feel bad about it, leading him into this and I also struggle with the staggeringly dumb comment.

It makes very little sense to me. Even if Mr hadn’t made a living from music for years at one stage, played overseas, been in lots of bands, played on 2 albums, taught lots of other people to play guitar etc - even if he had found a guitar in a skip and posed with it in a picture- what does that image really have to do with ability or music. I mean does this guy rate a painter by how they’re picture sounds? So you look at a picture of a guy with a guitar taking a dick pic and decide he can’t play it. Then there a bunch of pics of me posing with the guitar and....nothing. No challenge to me for holding it. More assumptions.

What is his ideal? Guitar porn pics with accurate chord fingerings and the air of being in key? Should all hobby based porn come with evidence of skill level? Did he hate my kitchen pics because I didn’t send a cake? I can tell you when I saw em I was not looking for evidence of a scale being played. Is the guitar out of tune in the picture?

It’s a good thing that other jobs and hobbies are not ranking their qualifications by dick pic, huh. Sorry, you must be a shit builder because the hard hat was covering your bits and not your head. StOp BeInG MaChO LeArN tO BuILd...

It’s another example too if people not just moving past a pic they don’t like. Why bother commenting. They’ll delete it. They’ll block you. You gain nothing. It’s a courtesy I’ve extended to this commenters gallery. I’m sure if I didn’t live by this rule I could rip through their gallery with some random assumptions of my own but I don’t really have the time or inclination. So this is why I can’t have nice things. This is supposed to be a community. I think another NN holiday is in order.

While I have been writing this, Mr has pinged me. There are some swears and such but there is this nugget that I thought I would share

“If you really play a instrument, you never really stop learning. So, learn to play? Sure. What to learn next.”

Kisses, kink and ink

PB xXx

Maybe this will help clarify this complex issue.

Ask yourself first, do you like ink?

1. Yes - THEN TREAT THE SAME AS ANY OTHER LADY (or folk). Compliments are fine, we all like those.

2. No - Then keep scrolling. Don't comment, don't message them, go find something to be positive about. You don't go to a restaurant and order something you hate, right? Nothing you say to someone about their ink will change your issue with it.

Questions about tattoos are fine but some are personal to the bearer and they don't owe anyone an explanation. So ask politely and don't be upset if they don't want to share that detail.

Now get out there and be kind to people

Kisses, kink and ink, PB xXx

I wrote a thing. It’s based on real events last week. Names have been changed to protect the iNNocent.

It’s late, or it’s early, I’m not entirely sure as I am woken by his roaming hands. I lay on my side in bed, facing away from him it’s silent except for the rain against the windows. His hands are gently cupping my breasts and caressing them. Fingers on my nipples, waking them too and making them stiffen. A slight pinch to one and I moan slightly. It’s dark in the bedroom and cosy. I push my butt towards him my signal that I want this, one of a hundred silent communications a long married couple has. A hand moves down to my bum and begins to knead there. There are kisses at my shoulder, slow and even moving to my neck. The fog of sleep is clearing and one of his hands slides into my panties and elicits a moan as a fingers moves across my clit and lower. He spreads the wetness around and I roll onto my back and open my legs.

He kisses me on the lips with an urgency, usually a sigh he wants to say something and is working up the courage. His right hand is rhythmically rubbing my clit and a fire is building in me. He kisses down my neck to my breasts pulling the bedclothes aside as he goes. He sucks a nipple into his mouth and tongues at it. This is both highly pleasurable and a mind trick as he knows he’s teasing what he may do to my clit. The idea smoulders in my mind making me wetter. He swaps between breasts playfully teasing each in turn before kissing down my body slowly.

I reach out a hand and grab his cock. I grip it tight. I want It. His kisses reach my pussy and colours explode in my brain as his tongue finds my clit. As he foreshadowed it’s sucked into his mouth and his tongue flicks back and forth. I moan loudly. I try and guide the hard cock to my pussy but he doesn’t move. “No” he whispers. It’s not how this usually goes, my mind wrestles with the unexpected response for a second. He stops tending to my dripping pussy and stands. I stare after him excited but incredulous.

He pulls open the bedroom curtains, it’s dark and the windows are dripping with rain. Our door jamb restraints hang from the window frame, the cuffs dangling open. Before I can say anything he pulls me to the edge of the bed and helps me to stand. He fastens my hands into the restraints so I am facing the window and the street beyond. Kneeling on the padded box in the window, he moves me into position. I am excited, my mind races as he pushes my breasts against the cold glass and I feel his length slide into my pussy. I pull in a sharp breath as I take him all into me. His strong hands on my hips as begins to take me. The windows begin to fog as my breathing gets heavier. The rain lashes hard against the window as an orgasm rises in me, lashing back. The excitement of being in the window pushes an urgency Through me. It’s a thrill. One of his hands moves and a finger expertly rubs on my clit sending me moaning over the edge. The climax rocks my body and sends me bucking and shuddering against me. Then I feel him pull out and explode over my ass and back. Hot cum dripping down me as cold rain runs down the window. We kiss, we laugh and he sets me free. We sleep, in lust, in love.

And then we order breakfast (hey, it’s my fantasy).

Kisses, kink and ink, P xXx

Yes, still here Not as active as i was but still lurking.

I was talking in the chat room here with someone about the bondage pics we share and they were fascinated with the images and had some interesting questions about how it all works for us with the intent of trying some things with their partner. So I thought i might compose some thoughts on it. Some i may have mentioned before but as it's been so long since i posted on a blog, i don't feel too bad about that. I've also been texting back and forth with Mr on this subject to try and get his views in here too. So - Bondage play - here's what works for us.

Safety first!
Obvious but i'd be remiss not to mention this. Arrange a safe word or signal and remember to check in with each other as you go. If you are restraining a person you need a plan to be able to release them very quickly should the need arise. Most cuffs come with a 2nd key, have those somewhere to hand, for ropes some scissors are probably wise. Don't guess with knots, there are lots of good references for knot tieing- never tie anything you don't know how to untie and it's a good idea to have familiarised yourself with everything you are going to use. We will often open and look at things together way in advance of the session to know how things will work. Which brings me onto my next point:-

Planning
These sessions often fall to Mr to plan, so I've interrogated him thoroughly for this (after planning m interrogation.....thoroughly). First thing is before you get to play time, discuss the sort of things you want to do, always agree a red list of things that are not happening. A full itinerary is not sexy - granted but knowing that something you don't want to do won't happen is good and means planning can happen. So when we play, i know the type of things that may happen - but what will happen, what order, that's all a surprise as we go.

The kitchen sink- you don't have to do everything all at once all the time. start small and build up.

Discuss pain. Find out what you both enjoy. Is the real rush the power play, the restraint? We are not really into pain, we've learned over the years. Some things that look like fun in porn are just that. So don't be afraid to be honest about what you do and don't enjoy and why.

From a practical stand point, make sure you have cleaned toys you intend to use, have lube and toys and restraints etc prepped and ready in advance. It's a mood killer to be tied up and asked "have you seen the butt plug? I'm sure it was in this drawer..."

Senses
One of the key concepts i enjoy is being blindfolded and restrained and having to listen and feel everything going on around me. The mood and atmosphere become heightened. This is where the slow burn teasing really comes in to our sessions and it's such a turn on. Every caress and kiss, every stroke is magnified and you build up and up and up. I'm getting turned on just writing about it. Also the things whispered in an ear, take a new power on. Questions become pathways to pleasure or frustration. Descriptions can become like someone reading a menu to you from your fav restaurant. Try not to rush the foreplay, with all the effort you've put into getting this far, it's an experience to be treasured.

We tend to switch up who is dominant and submissive. I'd recommend couples turn the tables at least once to see what they think.

So, that's what works for us and the advice we'd give anyone starting out. Any questions, let me know.. There is probably more to say that will occur to me later but the writing of it has me.....distracted now, lol

Kisses, kink and ink x

PB

*blows an inch of dust off the blog table*

Yes, it has rather been a while, hasn’t it?

We had a bit of a dry spell where we stopped taking pics as much and got to back to being in the moment and enjoying each other.

I’d noticed that we were getting a little hung up on taking pics during play and what people wanted and after a chat we refocused on what we wanted to get out of it and it did us some good, I think.

It’s easy to get caught up in this thing we do sometimes. You sometimes see things you don’t like in yourself in the pics or you read a comment or a message that sways how you think about a picture. Sometimes your confidence gets shaken. Importantly I found I was not listening to the advice I would give others all the time -

- Do this for you. No one else.
- If you are not happy with anything, don’t post it.
- Don’t be pressured by anyone else into anything that makes you uncomfortable.

So it was the right thing to do. No drama about it, no announcements or passive aggressive statuses, just us, laying it down and figuring it out.

Some of that undocumented play took us in new directions and will inspire pics and clips, I’m sure. In fact that’s already started.

There are some new ones taken by a window with the curtains open that were inspired by us having sex practically against the glass very late at night with the curtains open, it was electric. Safe enough to be comfortable but very exciting. It was spur of the moment too, so had that spontaneous energy in it. Thinking about it, part of that energy was different because there was no stopping for pics. We’d become very conditioned to that.

I also noticed that we wouldn’t take pics of some of the regular sex we were having. It felt like, we weren’t because it wasn’t exciting enough to photograph and post. I’m all for standards but I worried we were creating an artificial downer for ourselves there. A sort of physiological self depreciation. I think that’s why it did is good to try some new things and kinky things together that started just with us.

Now we’re refreshed and enjoying the experience far more. I ‘d say if you start to feel as I’ve talked about before, it’s worth taking some time to reconnect with each other rather than stop enjoying this incredible hobby

Kisses, kink and ink

PB xxx

Hi guys,

Just a quick update, don’t get up.

Podcast recommendation time!

“The Butterfly effect” by Jon Ronson

It’s a fascinating look at the impact of free porn on the porn industry and the people involved. I think NN’ers have an interesting experience in our world and this series connects with our world in some interesting ways, especially if you like to think about the site and how it works etc.

Some great interviews and interesting food for thought.

K, I luv ya bye bye

Kisses, kink and ink

Px

Hello lovelies xx

Had a PM question and thought I’d answer here about editing pics.

I’m super into this aspect at the moment. I’m really enjoying taking some time over an image and playing with different effects and filters to see where the image ends up.

To my critics on this - these are really for me. I’m under no illusion this is high art but let me tell you, if it wasn’t for this element of my NN hobby at the moment I’d be bored. Do you know how many pics bored Persephone posts? It’s the same as the number of shits I give about complaints I’m “over editing” my pics. None. Zero. So in this regard, it’s what I’m up to at the moment. It’s not for everyone (it’s for me) and I don’t force you to look. If you don’t want to look/vote/comment, all fine.

For me I’m enjoying it and I’m looking back at pics that previously didn’t make the cut and thinking about how I might edit them to be happy enough with them to post . Sometimes they just don’t work out but it’s still fun trying.

To the filthy few, my fans, thank you for your positive comments and messages and votes.It is really appreciated.

Kisses, kink and ink

Persephone xXxXx

Ok, after a talking with a few friends here I’m taking a break.

Quite a few people recommended it and it’s better that then completely deleting.

I’ll take some time out and see what happens.

Just in case, I’ll end on this:-

Thank you for all the views/likes/bookmarks/comments and positive messages on our stuff. It’s appreciated.

Kisses, kink and ink xxxxx

I've been more and more quiet in statusland for the last few months. I've become a majority lurker.

It used to be my fav part of the site. It's hard to explain why exactly. At it's best it's a window into the hearts and lives of like minded souls and can be as funny as cat videos on youtube are to a 5 year old. I've found lovely people through status exchanges, been moved to tears on a couple of occasions and i've also found some incredibly sexy posts.

It also helps members find their feet and get advice. It polices the site, calling out fakes and raising issues to mods. It's allowed me a soap box at times, a rant about this or that, the administration of an attitude adjustment or 2. In alot of ways it's the soul of NN.

Slowly, I've become warn down by the fakes. I'm now so jaded that my first thought isn't one of support for new members but "yeah, right...webpics". I used to be about supporting new comers and members i didn't know. Now I feel that status needs new buttons:-

like / comment / Seems legit / report obv fake / block

I feel bad for the mods who trawl through this every day. I feel admiration for them and the other members who spend their time on here cleaning up the place. It wares you down reporting and getting rid of the trash only for them to turn up with a new name again a short time later.

The site and the experiences i have had here have changed me. In alot of ways these are positive, my attitudes around my own body, the development of a hobby that involves Mr and pushes our creativity as a couple, seeing a wide breadth of beauty in people - these are all overwhelmingly positive things. I've noticed that jadedness casting it's shadow over me though and changing the way I think. That scares me.

Have i got all the positives from this that i'm going to get? Is it all negatives and downhill from here? Is it time to go?

Hello luvlies,

Been a while since a blog post. Thought I’d share my latest experience of random messages.

Name has been removed to protect the idiot

Hi Persephone,

Some really hot pics. They are a bit samey though. We should totally talk about new ideas as I have lots.

Msg back

D****

Response-

Hi D*****

Thanks for the (initial) compliment and taking the time to contact me with an in-depth and constructive criticism.

I was, however, a bit confused. Can you clarify for me:-

Is it the lingerie pics that are a bit samey or the ones with the ice cube? Or the one’s with the harness and leash? Or the ones with the tail? Or the ones with the riding crop? Or the oral sex ones? Or is the anal sex ones? Or the ones with dildos? Or perhaps the ones with but plugs? Or is it the black and whites? Or the ones outside? The fireside outside ones? The rope play ones? The baby oil ones? The cream and fruit ones? The Sherbert strip? Is the selfies you mean? The hand cuffs and restraints? The hair pulling? The blindfolds and bondage tape? The ones that play with light and shadows? The verification pics?

I guess on reflection, I see your point. All these pics have a samey quality about them. Same couple, same passion, same love, same level of care throughout all five hundred and something pics and clips.

As you are such a brave visionary, a real NN artist, I decided to check out your profile. Imagine my surprise (given the aforementioned billing) to find you have a few close up pics of your penis...and nothing else. No blog, no statuses. I hate to say it, D**** but it was all a bit...well...samey.

Anyway, I’d love to help you with that but I have creativity problems of my own apparently.

Kind Regards

Persephone