Taking an NN break for a bit, a few reasons but boy am I suffering from fake fatigue just now. It feels like there are so many at the moment and it really puts me in a negative frame of mind.

Some real life stuff brewing too that needs my full attention.

See you round,

Kisses, kink and ink xxx

Sometimes it's best to break bad news with a picture. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, in this case most of the thousand are- i'm eating your choclate, hubster. And - sorry....not sorry. As you can see i've tried to soften the blow here by off setting the bad news with lingerie and positive imagery related to happy times





Kisses, kink and ink (and choclate) xxxx

I LOVE status, it is where I spend most my NN time which is probably odd for a site of this nature - but it's true.

It seems to have changed but over the year I've been here. Lot's less character and more and generic updates that are not really about interaction. "Bored and horny" is a terrible status update but probably the most common on here.

If you are bored have a better look round the site. Or go do something else. But does statusing it really change anything? Most of them are ignored anyway. There can only be so many statuses on the page and you killed one to add what you do.

It also feels like a lot of the fun has gone out of status these days. The "fuckery" of old is gone and people are taking some things waaaay to seriously. I recently saw someon e resort to insults over a a joke about chocolate. If your status isn't going how you hoped - just delete it. Don't devolve into a slagging match.

When I first started out in status it feel like a web of impenetrable inside jokes and references to people I didn't know but taking time and hanging out in status definitely opened it all up.

At it's best it's funny, revealing and supportive. At it's worst it's guys pretending to be women asking for tributes, fakes with faker messages and "bored and horny" turning into trading insults.

Let's make status great again

Kisses Kink & ink

Px

We are taking an NN break.

I've written at length about NN being an escape and a world which we inhabit as a fantasy.

There is too much real life breaking that at the moment and i don't come here to argue with people. If i want to do that, i have other forums for it where i can debate and back up arguments and not worry about it. But that isn't here. Not for me any way.

So, for the filthy few fans, take care and i'll return at some point

Kisses, kink and ink PB XXxx

Welcome, welcome, please take a seat. Do you have a drink? Good, good, please make yourself comfortable.

Today's ramble through my thoughts centres on editing and the type of pictures I love to see and be in. It was prompted by a conversation with someone on here, who self identified as a fan. Talking to them led me on a journey around that label.

I'll have to paraphrase some of the comments and names changed to protect the inNNocent. Also, if you are reading this but have not seen our gallery, have a look, even just at the thumbnails, it will give you some context for where this is going.

So it started with compliments, all gratefully received. "I'm a real fan of what you do" he typed. To me that means pics that heavy on the erotic and editing, lot's of lingerie, often black & white and dirty without being very graphic. Now , that is just how I feel about it and I think you can see a move more towards that style in our gallery. Yes, there are some more graphic, explicit images and clips, we don't treat the whole thing as an art form as such, just I find it more fun when you can see some art in the final pic.

I asked him about his fav pics or series of pics and he came up with some of the older ones that are at the more explicit end of our range (though not of the available range on NN, oh my no). He said that he prefers the naked shots to the lingerie and isn't a fan of the filters/black & white.

All of this is fine, of course but I started to wonder at what point he would cease to be a fan. It made me think about our style being so central to what I like to do and how someone can be enjoy our profile but still sort've miss the intent. Suggesting to do more of something I've been moving away from struck me as odd.

Then the conversation moved onto the lighting - now, I've been playing with a light box and we found some fairy lights and both loved the pics that came out of those sessions. To my mind, it's obvious the intent of these is that they are low light and that Mr is trying to take pics that play with the available light. Now I deleted some of these in my editing phase, some got clipped and edited etc but that is the look we were going for. They really are some of the best we have done, in our opinion. Our new friend's view was that they were too dark and would benefit from being lightened up so you could see more.

I was a bit baffled. Had he really missed the point so completely? Could he not see the intent? Then another idea dawned. He was't really a fan of mine at all. He was a fan of naked ladies. - yes, yes, I know, I know, I am a (semi) naked lady etc but I mean, the things that really make the pics ours, that make the profile mine, the me beyond the naked lady- he wasn't into or thought I should change things.

So, another harmless chancer politely dispelled and on to the next. I do wish people would think about what they message though. If I message someone and say I'm a fan, you can bet I've looked through your pics, vids and read your blogs and status if you have them and genuinely - am a fan of what you bring to NN.

Kisses, kink and ink

PB xx

The Easter bank holiday wasn't the best time time for us in real life. Not in a huge, earthshattering way and before i continue, i have to pause and say. We are lucky, every day in so many ways. But- in our bubble- it was stressful.

We were set for a rare four day weekend with plans for every day and evening. When our son fell ill. Nothing serious but contagious and lethargy inducing. So we ended up quarantined and trying to keep our son's spirits up but a lot of letting him rest.

All our regular social media was entirely focussed on this, our friends and family were fantastic and loving and full of tips and that was wonderful...but....sometimes you want to go where no one knows your name

NN was a safe haven of escapism. Through long evenings and late nights, sat by beds/sofa, our frieNNds were always there helping distract us from things we couldn't change and focus on a positive - our 10k views. So, sure in the cold light of day it may not be much and there are members with ooodles more and some in half the time but for a couple of days it was a big deal for us. Dipping into our secret lives here was a fleeting but real retreat.

While our situation was not serious it really struck me how valuable this place is. Not in a way that had been as obvious to me before. This little corner of the internet is my palace of perversion and a chance to leave life behind and be a different me.

Thank you to everyone who makes this place, thanks to everyone who votes, comments, status'es (sure that's a thing), chats, posts pics and clips and blogs. You are the soul of this place, you are NN

Kisses, ink and kink xxx

Mr and I have been working on a fantasy idea for a while and I'm aware as I type this how tame and lame if probably sounds to the uNNiverse here but I felt the urge to write and order my thoughts on it - so here we are- always best to follow an instinct.

Essentially, I want to have one of our (famous? Nah) slow burn bondage tease sessions (to clarify, no fire involved). But we want to let a couple of close frieNNds watch via cam. It sounds like a really sexy idea to me. Surrendered in a safe environment, all the things I enjoy about being teased and teased and teased and then being satisfied - with the added bonus of sexy friends enjoying it too.

But is it one of those things that sounds better than it is? Will they be bored watching this unfold, will they ask for things I won't do and how much interaction do I want anyway. I guess they would really be interacting with Mr more. I will probably need to set some kind of ground rules. I have a partner who knows all my go/no goes but then he'll have to be a gatekeeper during the interaction.

On the technical side I need to figure out where we set this thing and where the angles and lights etc. I don't want this to look worse than the standard of pictures we have - despite this event not being recorded.

I'm also aware that this is my (our) fantasy and I don't want the people included to just feel like extras in it but it also kinda is MY fantasy. I want people to play by our rules as such. I think that's mostly around respect and nothing too draconian but it's still a weird prospect. And the idea of keeping it to a small audience to try means I will annoy someone who isn't included, it happens to me in video chat. I am talking to someone private about something, quickly put a cam on to show them something and I get people click to view the cam- which Is fine, I get that. Then I decline those and usually stop the cam when I've done what I wanted (shown a top to someone, a comic book cover - real hardcore stuff, ya know?) and then I get people moan about not being able to see something they probably didn't want to (some directly some passive aggressive Eeyore style) . And I feel bad, they are mad and Urgh. I don't want more of that happening.

Maybe I'm over thinking this. That is possible. Maybe this should be simple but it feels like a big thing (you can make your own joke there). Maybe if needs this much thought it's just not a good idea. Hmmm

Don't call me a bitch. Not a sexy bitch, your bitch, hubbies bitch -just nope.

Don't use the word anus in your "sexy patter". Too medical soundng, let's also rule out all reference to my cervix.

Don't use the phrase "fuck the shit out of you". It makes me want to corpse-ify a fool.

Don't get mad at me if i won't cam/prv with you in the chat rooms, don't think that saying "hi" or extending basic human decency puts you in some kind've favour credit with bank of Persephone.(yup, this has happned)

Don't photoshop my pics. It's insulting and weird. It is a not a turn on to have a stranger badly super imposed into my sex life like the world's worst photo bmber.

Don't send me messages all in block caps- if i want incoherent yelling trying to get my attention i'll talk to my kid.

Don't send random pics of your cock to me. Don't. You might be impressed but to me it's the same as when the cat brings in a mouse for me. - I see how pleased you are with it but it's going straight in the bin. If it has no context to me - I'm not interested. Just so we're clear DON'T SEND ME RANDOM PICS OF YOUR COCK.

Don't tell me how you would employ me in any domestic fashion. I had a message telling me how a guy would employ me to feed him snacks while dressed sexy. If that is the power of your imagination you are too dull for us to be friends.

Don't offer me money - if I accept beware you've just paid for your own Hitman. It's unbelievably insulting. I have a feeling if you think that is a good message to send you won't be reading this blog anyways.

Don't even hint at replacing my Mr. At best you'll be blocked and ignored. If you don't get why it's a problem- go read my 3rd blog post. At worst, you'll think it's all going swimmingly before you walk into a hotel room with my Mr waiting for you.

Do like - Do comment - Do PM - Do support posters you like- do ask people who else they like- do premium if you can - definitely verify. Always verify.

Sooooo good

There are a number of aspects to NN that really may not be apparent to the casual observer. Advice and shared experience is definitely one of those.

There is something fantastic about finding people who have the same kinks as you and being able to ask questions and learn from them. In my experience, rope play has been one of those. A couple of members on here were so helpful with suggestions on books and rope types and cautionary tales, it really was positive and supportive.

It's also great for respectfully learning about other kinks that you have not encountered before and dismissing some of the sex myths around them. I've been held hostage to these myths myself in the past and it's amazing how wrong you can be about sex when you are closed minded about it. That is probably a whole other blog.

What brings to you today (love what you've done with the place by the way) is a status update I saw that made me mad. Not the status - actually- but some of the reactions. I will remove names to protect the innocent, couple A posted a casual enquiry - what brand lube do you use? We use X but it's not cheap. Perfectly standard status fare and a legitimate enquiry. A number of the NN family gave great suggestions from specific brands to coconut oil - I physically smiled at how great this was. It's so difficult to have some of these conversations with your real life friends but here we have a fantastic example of the cominNNity at work.

Then came the "alpha male" responses only one or two but boy were they exasperating. "Oh baby, if I was there you wouldn't need any" and sentiments in that vein. My objections are two...three....manyfold, let's see if I can articulate them.

First- this is a shopping enquiry from a happy couple, no invitation extended, so really the statement is a bit redundant. If wishes were fishes, I'd....put...the chips...<fish and chips joke>. I'm sure I'll fix that joke in the edit and it won't make the final cut.

Then- this is really an insult to man in the couple. Which is also an insult to the woman in the couple. Suggesting that that partner is not able to turn you on is pretty objectionable at the best of times but come on- someone asking for advice doesn't deserve that kind of disrespect here. It's also a really dumb leap- hmmm I want to be involved in this couples sex life, perhaps insulting them will help....Urgh!

Also, there is some kind of weird shaming that goes on around lube, I've noticed - like it's automatically reflective of some kind of deficiency. This myth really does need dismissing. Just for starters it is an essential element of good bum fun (if I ever right a guide about that subject there will be a whole section on lube). We need to stop thinking about it as lube- it's fun times rubbing juice. Apply it to places that are fun that you want to rub and enjoy. It's 2017 and there are lubes that tingle or have glitter in them and all sorts. It's a sex toy, really. It's light hearted fun and their is really no shame in that. I feel we've already fought and won this battle for vibrators. I expect there was time when it was held up as a signal of a deficiency in the bed room but who bats an eyelid these days? We've found that there is a lot of fun for everyone with toys.

Kisses, kink and ink PB xXxXx