To me seduction is a bit like a meal out. From the outset there is a little something special in mind. An idea something special will be shared.

In both, an atmosphere is important. The setting doesn't have to be romantic per se but it does need to be right. I'm not just talking about a room (or outside) but all the interaction that sets the tone. On NN how you are impacts the atmosphere. I've read comments that leave the atmosphere in tatters and made me log off, even though other people were being down right awesome.

At a meal the menu is read and anticipation built but it's just a sign post for the potential. It's not the main event. We all get annoyed by those endless take away menus coming in through the door, they all end up in the bin - when you PM someone for the first time- ask yourself if your menu is fancy or throw away. Pro-tip, block caps are not your friend. When you start a conversation in chat someone is likely to click your profile, in my case often before I reply- if it's blank, so is your menu, really. Nothing to make you stand out means my attention is likely going somewhere else. No starters is a non starter

Starters - more correctly in this context- appetisers, are a little bit of what you like. Something special that gets everything ready for the mains. Fore play. I'm a lover of this, it fills a lot of naughty play time in our sex life (maybe I really like tapas in this analogy). In NN terms I guess this is the flirting. But we never get here if the menu is poor, if the menu was shoved through the door every few minutes- food for thought

Kisses, kink and ink, P xxxx

Seasons greetings

So here we are! That time of year again. Big year for us, lot's of changes and NN has been one of them. I do need to thank all the awesome people that make this community so good. I know this blog often moans about the small but unavoidable bad element on here but on balance there are far more kind, considerate, polite and all over lovely people than not. It's important not to loose sight of that.

I'm tempted to list some of the excellent people on here but I'll accidentally miss and upset someone so I'll just say, thanks and you all know who you are.

So- going forwards.

Some people have definitely noticed a slow down in pics posted. A big chunk of that is life getting in the way. Another piece of that puzzle is inspiration. I don't want to post pics for the sake of it. I really like having some quality in the shots and not just the same old.

I think there will be more pics but slowly going forwards.

Videos? maybe, I find it a lot harder to edit them and be happy with the results. It's also a lot more time intensive.

Chat-wise, experiments in chat continue. I was fairly convinced it was a dead end for me but I since made a few friends I wouldn't have otherwise and they have been very kind and worthwhile connections.

Blogs- yes, I took a bit of a break but back enjoying putting these together again. Trying to put a bit more thought into planning subjects for next year and mix those in with the off the improv ones.

Mod squad - so, I've been giving some thought to applying as I am on most evening for a bit. Would make sense to be able to help people. I decided I will have a chat with some mods I know and get the inside scoop on it.

So - Love each other, treasure each other and have a wonderful Christmas together. We love you all xx

Ps spare a thought for those working over those time. Especially those working in our medical, care and emergency services, armed forces who can't be home this Xmas xxx

Hello!! Come in, come in! I'll pour you a drink! The usual? Of course, of course.

Welcome back to my humble patch of NN. The Burlesque doesn't start for a while yet, perhaps some conversation?

This establishment isn't a pic trading site. Yet, fairly regularly I get requests for pics. I of course, naturally point them to the gallery *gestures to a door on the left of the theatre* but they say they want something new, some thing just for them.

Big fans, yet unsatisfied with the current 154 pics, they seem unconvinced by my comment that there is really nothing new under the sun and insist. They press that they have seen all that, praising it and yet dismissing it at the same time. I naturally check my list of ultimate premium subscribers for whom I would feel the urge to oblige and finding just the one name there, the same one that has been there for well over 15 years, I politely but firmly push back.

As part of the reply process, I have clicked there profile and found no content - they explain to me that are keeping it back to trade. Then, unbidden, they send me a web pic. You know, a cheap knock off and insist that I owe them a picture in return. Even if it were a real pic, even if it were a Rembrandt of a pic, I am interested in interactions not, demands, not bizarre extortions from strangers.

It comes back to this entitlement issue again. We don't owe anyone anything. Certainly not private pics or bespoke content. We enjoy sharing, we enjoy reactions but we are not here to service anyone but ourselves.

Our real fans don't want loads of quick click pics, samey and uninspired. They want to see us, enjoying sharing, enjoying each other. The old adage rings true - quality over quantity.

The best thing about NN is it's community. The worst thing about NN is people who think they are part of that community but don't embrace the values that make the NN community.

I'm really talking about respect. Cue Aretha Franklin - go on, pop it on, I'll wait....done? Good. We don't all share the same kinks and views and that is fine, that is ingrained in all communities. I will never get the feet thing but I don't judge those who have that fetish. If they ask me about it, I'm honest - that's not something on our list, so sorry, we won't be taking pics focussing on it. I'm polite about it. Most the time that's the end of it.

Occasionally however, it leads to a series of follow up questions and assertions. "Why not? Have you tried it? I'd really like it if..."

There is no disrespect in an enquiry. There is no disrespect in polite suggestions. There is plenty in demands.

I'm here for me, and Mr. We do what we want to. No one else has any entitlement. We don't owe anyone anything.

Don't ask me bounce my tits or jiggle my ass or whatever, I am not a performing seal. Don't send me constant invites to private if I don't know you, don't respond or decline. If I am not interested in a profile with no content the first time you /prv me, the odds don't increase I will be with persistence. All you are doing is inching towards the abyss of the block list (however infective it may be- a rant for another time). Respect is taking time to see if you can connect with someone and if you can share a friendship here that is not like one in the "real world".

It becomes an effort to be in chat rooms if you have no room to breathe and are bombarded by demands. That really doesn't create a good environment for anybody. It becomes tiresome to have the same conversations over and over. And people, if it doesn't work out - don't sulk. Don't bemoan the lack of attention I have given you. A universal rule for NN - desperation is not an attractive quality and it's not going to endear you to the other members.

Most importantly, never forget that the people you talk to are people. Real people. They might be on NN to forget that and they will let you know. If you create a space where they can tell you what they want and how you might both get there and that starts with respect. - did I mention respect? Respect.

Ok, I think that's out of my system now.

Kisses, ink and kink

Persephone xx

Adventures in video chat

So in my wanderings through NN I found myself giving video chat another go.

It's not my natural environment to be honest. I love taking pics and being able to have full control over what goes up, I can edit if I like, crop and chop, filter. I can take my time with an image. Mr shoots a lot of pics that never get anywhere near the site. I also really hate my voice. So it's not really somewhere I sought out on NN and when I did go the first time it was brief and not enjoyable. I was bombarded with messages and quickly felt out of my depth.

So - fast forward and I've had some fantasies about cam'ing with some trusted people, so I ventured back on a fact finding expedition to see if I could get it to work on my terms. I'm not taken with the idea of just anyone being able to watch. Which proved a bit tricky at first until - private room.

Now this option means you are not in the main lobby. You have a private chat space that's password protected. There are a few good things about this option. It means you can invite a bunch of people you already trust off your friends list, see who is online or set up a time. You are also not in the main lobby which means you aren't getting lot's of requests, not having to try and follow other convos or having the same convo starter over and over again.

What started as a sexy cam idea then changed a bit in my head to be more of a social room. A sort of no pressure, friends room. Sure, the naughty applications are obvious but it would be so cool to talk some of our friends on here about their posts and blogs and other NNisms. Not even expressly on cam, the text set up in the cam room is oddly far superior to that in the chat room (go figure). You can also set themes for discussion via the titles.

The more I think about it, the more I'd like to have a little speak easy in NN, down on the corner of video and chat. Invite only, respectful, friendly types talking about what draws us all together over a drink.

It could be fun...

Sexy salutations fellow members of the NN uNNiverse and welcome to Persephone's place. Please leave your coat with the attendant and avail yourself of a drink at the bar. We will begin shortly!

*adjusts polka dot corset and wriggles nose under mask*

Welcome to another small but elite meet and greet on the corner of erotic and perv street. Please move to the main floor and take your seat. This weeks subject is rope play, a new subject for us but so very exciting.

*gestures to Mr stood stage left, coiling a length of purple rope*

We are obviously not experts and have little to offer in the way of advice but there are a few things that occurred to me on the journey so far.

I found Shibari on a jaunt through tumbler. I was drawn to the beautiful lattice work harnesses as really sexy lingerie. That element of it is my focus still so far but it's also got a strong bondage element and restraint play is a big part of our regular sex life.

The idea of making things is strong in our relationship, we are both creative types and enjoy making things. DIY lingerie really rather hit that mark for us.

Some time went by and during a shopping spree on a sex toy site I spotted the rope on offer and it was in the basket before I could think about it- I then text Mr to ask if he thought a 2nd rope was a good idea.

*Mr nods enthusiastically*

No prizes for guessing that response. I then went on a kindle search and tracked down an excellent book by Two Knotty Boys which lays out step by steps and lots of useful info. I then made sure Mr had downloaded a copy too and let him read.

This is the other more unexpected turn on. It is hot to me that he spent time learning something new to try. Boning up (too obvious?) on how to tie it and him even practicing it a couple of times so as to make it fast and clean in the moment - as opposed to a flat pack assembly. A confidence with these things is very sexy. I am lucky to have a partner who listens to me and wants to put effort in to trying new things.

So the first time he had me a harness in minutes and I was SO TURNED ON by it. We only took a few snaps because we just had to get into it. I've already picked out new things for him to work on and loving the idea of more. There will be more pics of it in the future - until then go check out "pride1969" for some very inspiring pics in this vein.

** I have enjoyed talking about a specific sexploit- let me know if I should do more of these**

Kisses, kink and ink

Mrs PB xxx

Who is Persephone Brown?

If we ever do a FAQ the name questions will be on there. So let's tackle that one, shall we?

I will refrain from my * action * hijinks this week as it may get confusing.

So - Persephone is not my real name (I know, mind. Blown. Right?). She is an alter ego I inhabit. She may not be a super hero but she is my hero.

She is more than a mask and some lingerie. She is powerful and confident. She is exactly as in charge as she wants to be at any given time. She is a version of me that I like, not separate but equally not the same woman who does real life. She empowers me.

To paraphrase Ani Difranco: I just write about what I should have done and the things I wish I could say. I just hope someone hears me and it gets them through their day.

I identify with the sentiment. Persephone is a fantasy. A shared fantasy, she is mine (and Mr's) and yours. I'm glad if she makes you smile, if she is an imp who brightens your day, if she makes you horny, if she makes you forget. To my mind she is an old west burlesque spirit out of time. Equal credit for this tiny patch of NN we inhabit must go to my man. He is unendingly supportive, even when the adventures of Persephone hit difficult times (and people) he knows her value for me.

Well, we are nearing my stop again. The train reviewer is at peak puzzlement so I (we?) will sign off.

Kisses, kink and ink


Mrs PB xxxx

Well...Hi...I guess. I've been told to write something for this. So.....here we go.

Bear in mind that as I attempt to construct this, Mrs PB is buzzing about me, reading this as I write it and smiling sweetly at me. I feel like a kid doing homework under the watchful gaze of Harley Quinn.

I read the blog and smiled ear to ear - it's not attractive but it was my instinct. I am a huge fan of her posts anyway but to see the evening from her side was very touching. I know I am one lucky son of a gun to be with her. I was out with her so I was having a blast anyway but did enjoy playing again more than I thought possible. I was flattered to even be asked to get up. I'd not seen it coming but jumped at the chance.

Apparently I have to use some asterisks to keep to a predefined style you are all used to? To indicate what I am doing? Or. K.

*types more blog entry, I guess?*

The jealousy bit had me intrigued. I didn't clock any of this going on and wasn't aware of her reaction at all - only later did I find this out. Of course, anyone is a bit flattered by some positive attention but in real life my wedding ring is just like that one out of the hobbit. I put it on and I disappear (to women). I'm often nudged and asked if I "saw her" or "what she was wearing" and on exceptionally rare instances I do. So I was clueless and just pleased to have jammed out 3 tracks without any serious incident or question of why I had been allowed up there.

*oh fine, look, more typing from Mr. The typing continues. Typey type type*

The point that stood out to me was jealousy over looking and here vs real life. I read the comments on her post and agree with Kiwi- definitely control comes into it. I think it's expectations too. I know what the score is on NN, I can be fairly safe in my expectations of what will happen where as real life is much harder a thing to define and control. Also, blocking people in real life is a lot more messy.

I think there is a level of team work involved in our online antics that validates it as a couple. We have both consented to this site and how we post things so - we've bought into it. We don't really lay that out in real life and sign up to it. It's actually a big thing when you stop and look at it.

*oh ffs- Mr types and doth's his hat...I dunno, a big hat? Fine, fine, a
Top hat- can I carry on now?*

To me, confrontation plays into things too. I'm not a great fan of confrontation. In real life someone bothering Mrs is likely to lead to it. online - Boom- blocked and locked. Done. Gone. I can definitely see how much more real if feels off line. I like reading all the comments on here and I take no offence at 99.5% of them. It's sure a turn on to me.

The actual medium too plays into this. It's hard to feel threatened by a digital presence in a relationship that is secure. But a person wandering up is real and right there and we are hard wired to react to that.

I really want to take a paragraph to thank everyone who reads the blog, everyone who votes, comments and is supportive, all the NN friends we have. Thank you xxx

Mr PB

Kisses, kink and less ink X

*waves* g'morning fellow NNaughty peeps

*takes long drink of water*

Last night was fun. But not in a naughty way- sorry- if that was what you were after, I will refund your blog entry and you can go now, it's fine.

*another long, long drink*

Last night was date night. I won't go through the whole shebang but we had a time travel night. No? Ok... We went and did what we used to do before we had a kid

A good meal, uninterrupted by demands, yelling or children's you tube videos and then a band.

I love live music - Mr used to live for it. I met him when I was *does some math*... 18? Yeah ok. *carry the one* sure. So, I met him and he was playing in a band and I fancied him like crazy. So for pretty much the whole time I've known him he's been playing and recording but all that stopped about two and half years ago.

Last night one of the bands invited him up for 3 songs and for 3 songs I time travelled and soaked in the energy of Mr doing his thing. I felt an old strain of our love stir and resurface. A prideful one, intense and happy for him all at the same time. Aaaaand there was a little something else that was unexpected.

*rolls eyes and pours more water*

I noticed that I wasn't the only one enjoying watching him. Him specifically. I was jealous. Not hugely, not for long. But it spiked, it had happened. It stuck with me as a juxtaposition.

My partner of over a decade. Who I encourage to pose (with me and on his own) so I can share pics of with other people has a woman looking at him. For 15 mins. And yet it bothers me as a reaction. How weird is that. It had me thinking all the way home. I love the comments on our pics, the ones on him as well as me but if someone said them in real life, to your face, how weird would that be.

*spots the red light come on, on the ramble-meter*

This whole journey has been amazing and fun and sexy but sometimes it occurs to me how odd it is. How complex people are. The portrayal in pics and the reality. It's a massive piece of mindscape to navigate.

I'm not sure I really had a point to make but I needed to write about it. I find it fascinating when I know how I *should* react to a situation but then I am in it and....I don't. I go off script.

Anyway, the train is stopping, the bald guy next to me seems to think this is a natural stopping point. He looks distinguished enough to know

Kisses, kink and ink

Mrs PB xxxxxxxxxx