I have found that my partners over the years, and especially if they know how their bodies work, will do whatever pleasures them. Some like to pinch their nipples, play with their clits, or just hold my head or cock. There are no rules or worries. I love to learn about what they like. Take the time to watch, ask, always make eye contact, they will let you know, just as I am sure, you tell them what you enjoy. Remember it is NOT a rush to orgasm. It is about the intimacy, kissing, licking, touching... Do your thing, they will guide and tell you to go faster...slower...easier...harder...softer...more intense... Just enjoy and have fun