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Honest opinion please (it is a real concern )
6-Apr-18 12:43
Dear users of NN,
please hear me out and tell me what you think. I would really value any honest opinions.
I am 32. Not really sexually experienced. I have not been sexually active in the last 10 years, mostly due to anxiety issues. Mostly they were triggered by rejection and penis size (on my profile and in my pics you can see that I am of average length (6 inches) and on the lower average side of the girth spectrum, uneven penis form, the thickest part being the base with 4.6 inches). It was borderline depression. I became obsessive about penis size, spent hours on the internet, trying to make peace with something I could not change.
But I got out of it, started feeling better about myself and also about my genitals. I never had problems in other areas. I am freaking smart, intelligent, very good at my job, I make people laugh, I am a very loyal friend and all that.
Recently I started getting to know a woman, lets say long distance. We really get along very very well, share interests, laughs love the way the other person looks. I am already immensely emotionally involved.
Now a couple of weeks ago, I found myself falling back into old habits. That voice in my head that I had successfully shut up during the last years was getting louder again. And first signs of obsessive behavior are also showing again. And I hate it. I feel like I am about to screw up because of these issues.
At the same time, I already feel a crippling fear of being rejected due to my size. I don’t want to live through another traumatic experience (many will say I am exaggerating, but believe me, I’m not).
Should I end things before it gets too serious?
Should I take a leap and just try?
What would you do?
Maybe there are users here who can help me. Who have experience, or understand my problem.
I would really value any input!
Thank you!
please hear me out and tell me what you think. I would really value any honest opinions.
I am 32. Not really sexually experienced. I have not been sexually active in the last 10 years, mostly due to anxiety issues. Mostly they were triggered by rejection and penis size (on my profile and in my pics you can see that I am of average length (6 inches) and on the lower average side of the girth spectrum, uneven penis form, the thickest part being the base with 4.6 inches). It was borderline depression. I became obsessive about penis size, spent hours on the internet, trying to make peace with something I could not change.
But I got out of it, started feeling better about myself and also about my genitals. I never had problems in other areas. I am freaking smart, intelligent, very good at my job, I make people laugh, I am a very loyal friend and all that.
Recently I started getting to know a woman, lets say long distance. We really get along very very well, share interests, laughs love the way the other person looks. I am already immensely emotionally involved.
Now a couple of weeks ago, I found myself falling back into old habits. That voice in my head that I had successfully shut up during the last years was getting louder again. And first signs of obsessive behavior are also showing again. And I hate it. I feel like I am about to screw up because of these issues.
At the same time, I already feel a crippling fear of being rejected due to my size. I don’t want to live through another traumatic experience (many will say I am exaggerating, but believe me, I’m not).
Should I end things before it gets too serious?
Should I take a leap and just try?
What would you do?
Maybe there are users here who can help me. Who have experience, or understand my problem.
I would really value any input!
Thank you!
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