Now, I am not saying that people shouldn’t do what they love! Want a bigger dick, fine, get one. Want a tighter pussy…well, get one then.
But why do it behind your spouse’s back? Why be - sorry to say it so bluntly - a really shitty human being? Why string along another person, the person you’re supposed to love and be faithful to no less? For the financial, social, emotional, practical benefit? Or what? Just tell them and let them go. You think your spouses don’t notice that something has changed? You think people are fucking stupid? (I had two friends - one male, one female - who were both cheaters (actually the reason why they are no longer my friends… they also thought their spouses at the time didn’t know. Guess what. Everyone knew. Especially their spouses. And let me tell you, it’s horrible to see what that does to a person. The guy who had been cheated on? Well, for a long time we , i.e. his circle of friends, were really afraid we would lose him for god due to depression and suicidal tendencies).
I’m a teacher. And I have many students, boys and girls, who are unsure of themselves. Who have body issues. Who are looking for trust and stability and honesty. I tell them that they will find these things. That they will meet a person who can give them all that. But actually, when I look around….not just online, but in real life, it gets harder and harder to do that with a straight face.
Even for myself. Look at my pictures….I’m pretty average, on the skinnier side (which is worse than anything else, actually)… I have shut down feelings and desire for the last 10 years just out of anxiety. Somehow, I’m getting to know a girl right now and we get along really well….very strong connection. But the thought of sex? Of exposing my body and my small to average penis to her? Of trusting and committing? Investing so much in a person if it all can just be taken away by some other guy with a big cock? Thats a perfect setup for depression (That’s just my perspective. I can only imagine it would be the same for a woman….just, you know…tighter pussy etc.). And no, I am not saying that all women are like these women. But I also have yet to find o story that goes something like: Hey, man/ woman here. Tired of my bf’s big cock/ bf’s tight pussy. Would love to get with someone with a small cock/ wide pussy. So, you know what I mean
I don’t say you don’t have the right to have your wants and needs fulfilled. These days, as it seems, modesty and compromise appear to be strange, freakish ideas. You can have whatever you want. All the time.
Sorry. Just wanted to get that off my chest.
Now, if you excuse me, I will be in the other room feeling sad and inadequate.
Let me know how you feel about all this!
Keep up the sex positivity !
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