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Blog Title:	Fifty More Shades of EC.

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Jener	2-May-15 9:21:35 Wow!!!! Reading this has made me hard!!!

msyd	2-May-15 9:36:20 Bold topic EC. Good on you. Agree with your point of view. Some personal comments. I have dabbled in BDSM in a couple of relationships over the years, very much as a dom. I think there is a lot that is really misunderstood about BDSM. It is not, for me, an expression, of power, alpha-hood or pain for their own sake. The dom's and sub's roles are to trust each enough to give mutual pleasure in whatever works for them. The dom needs the sub as much as the sub needs the dom. Ying - yang. Reciprocity. The sub elects to submit to someone worthy of their surrender. The dom has the responsibility to look after the trust placed in them. There's a great quote: "Those who dominate must give those who submit everything they need but never more than they can endure.” The boundaries defining the needs of the dom and sub can't be prescribed and must be spelled out - they should not be assumed. What works for some may not work for others. Identifying the boundaries and what turns the other on is a very fun discussion to be had ..... BDSM is not for everyone. And it's especially not for the alpha types who don't understand that they need to be worthy of the trust placed in them. For me BDSM is absolutely sublime when it is part of a loving relationship. The tapestry of trust, intimacy and the desire to give mutual pleasure are unparalleled. While very much a dom, I have enjoyed the occasional role reversal as part of that tapestry. Looking forward to the comments on this one. Great blog. Cheers M

BuxomXhunter	2-May-15 22:51:31 love it, I enjoyed reading

Kev54	2-May-15 23:37:09 Lovely; Eye Candy you've definitely out did yourself. Enjoyed viewing your tasteful Fifty Shades of EC. The eroticism of your photos have stepped up to a new level. Love to see that lovely butt of yours hanging up in the air or leg's wide open with a clear view of your love nest. Thank you for sharing your ideas and inner thoughts.

XXXEyeCandy	3-May-15 2:03:51 M....you've hidden your dark side well. ;) You broach some interesting points. With the furor of Fifty Shades, there was concern voiced by the BDSM community here that people would engage in the activities without understanding the rules of engagement and paying them due respect. To treat it casually leads to misunderstandings. This doesn't have to be an excuse to take out one's aggression and feeling the need to exert power over one's partner. This is a key point which can be overlooked. This isn't about being given free license to bash a woman or degrade her if one is hardwired that way. In all of my experiences with hard-core participants, I never once saw anyone getting beaten, or being xxxxxx to participate in something they didn't want to. It was evident that there was a contract involved, a mutual agreement. The one thing about bringing this world into the mainstream is that those who are uneducated could run the risk of embarking on a journey which could end badly. In Chicago just after the movie was released, there were news reports of a young couple’s disastrous first foray into BDSM. The guy thought that what he was doing was consensual. She disagreed and in the end he faced charges of confinement and assault. It's precisely this ill-informed view of BDSM which could lead to further abuse. And this is not ok. To quote the dominus Ram from Patricia A. Knight’s Hers to Cherish, "Those who dominate must give those who submit everything they need but never more than they can endure.” To which the sub responds, “By your definition, the dominus has the harder role,” she whispered. “Perhaps. (He replied) What is more difficult? To trust another so completely? Or to honor the responsibility to never betray such a trust once given?” And her response, “I guess that would depend on how much the dominus cared for his slaaf.” With regards to Fifty Shades, in the book there was a concerted effort to bring the topic of safe words into their contract. I was disappointed that the movie skipped over this very important detail. Should a sequel be in the works, I hope this is rectified.

msyd	3-May-15 5:44:32 My dark side - ha!! Let me say that vanilla isn't the only flavour EC ... ;) Your quotes nail it. I totally agree with everything you've written. For me, the intensity of BDSM in a loving relationship adds a beautiful dimension. If BDSM is undertaken with consent and respect, it is intoxicating. To be clear, I am not advocating BDSM as essential for a loving relationship. Your Chicago story is depressing but illustrates the misconceptions around BDSM. Dom is a role not a birthright. The panorama of human sexuality is a very broad one. The real pleasures, however found, must be based on mutual respect and consent. And that includes BDSM. Cheers .... M

XXXEyeCandy	3-May-15 21:43:07 If this makes you hard, J....it pales in comparison to the real thing. ;)

XXXEyeCandy	3-May-15 21:44:18 Thanks, Bux...my pleasure. :) Or yours? ;)

XXXEyeCandy	3-May-15 21:50:11 Kev...great to hear from you, and thanks so much. Definitely another facet of me that hasn't been exposed here, pleased you enjoyed. It'll be back at some point. ;) Great to get these thoughts down in a post, they've been swirling around in my head for a while. :)

bbhubby	4-May-15 19:29:19 Reading this, I think that, in other circumstances, you and I would be good friends.