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Monday, January 28, 2008, 7:42:57 AM

there is no subject... what do you call it???
a friend posted a thread .... it made me cry .. it also made me angry ... it made me want to blog so i can get rid of it...

i said back in the start of january something happened... a "friend" sent my son via text a sexual pic...it's not that my son hasn't seen pics of whatever... but not of his parents friends... this in addition to the fact that this person knows that i think my son is gay makes it so much more unfathomable and hard to understand...

this person has contacted not me or my immediate family... but has contacted (al's) friends... my cousin... and it's been said i'm over reacting ....

please tell me as a parent .. am i over reacting??? i truly believe i'm under reacting....

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tight_wet_lips	28-Jan-08 7:48:28 A friend should not go behind your back and send your child nude pics. It is unforgiveable! Over reacting....oh hell no! Why would someone do that? Why would a friend do that. That is no friend! That is sick!!

shesez	28-Jan-08 8:28:45 it is YOUR responsibility to teach your child of sex when you feel it's right and how you want it done. no one else's. you have been violated and especially your child. i have 2 daughter's and many nephews i love as much as if my own, i raised 2 of them. never would i allow anyone to get away with 1.giving them alcohol. 2.giving them a drug or even a cig. 3. touching them sexually and NOT showing them photo's nor bringing them into conversation in which you would feel uncomfortable with. it is YOUR place to take a stand at any cost. anyone who says you are over reacting are some sort of ignorant hillbilly who would prob think any sexual act as long as it felt good or brought a laugh was ok. this is when your child comes first..my children were first even more so before their father. i'd keep conversations of sex between the two of you and protect him from privacy on the net or with dealings of any sort you do not feel totally relaxed with. if you don't step in now i feel you will regret it. don't listen to anyone that speaks against your gut feeling. we will support you...twl and i will support you.

shesez	28-Jan-08 8:33:26 i hope you have this pic. i myself would print it out several times and shove it into the faces of those who think you are over reacting and also keep a copy hidden. i'm pissed and i don't even know you..i'm sick of this state of mind that goes sexually overboard to include those too young. personally..this "friend" would have to get a body guard.

Wodja	28-Jan-08 9:01:23 Jacq...my honest opinion is you are not over reacting. my daughter is now 15, my 2 sons, 13, and 6months... TWL did not allow violence. You may not aprove of it either. but for my children... I WOULD go to jail... probably for life.... beleive me you are under reacting.

tight_wet_lips	28-Jan-08 9:32:13 Oh I would kill anyone who hurt my sons. I just didn't want the thread to be full of death and destruction. I wanted a point to be made. I wanted clear and concise comments. But to make it clear now....I would mame and destroy those who hurt my boys.

TresXXX	28-Jan-08 12:49:52 I don't know ages or what you done to react so far. So I can't say if you are over reacting. I doubt it.

Anya32	28-Jan-08 13:17:48 Jacq...NO, NO, NO you are NOT over reacting. What this so called friend did was wrong. I'm assuming your son is under-age. If it had been my son and I said the same thing to you, what would you have said to me? You must do exactly what you feel in your heart. This is YOUR son not anyone else's and you must do what you think is the correct thing to do, to protect him. Especially if he is in adolescence...it is such a vulnerable and impressionable period in his life. Whatever happens to him in this hormonal period will stay with him for the rest of his life. If he is gay, no probs. He will discover that for himself and you, as I would do, will accept him and love him. BUT, it is not up to anyone else to try and shove sex at him. This so called friend needs sorting out. Sorry if I've been outspoken, but it made me upset too. Sending hugs and the strength to do what's right for him. xxxxxxxxxxxx

msmilf2	28-Jan-08 14:51:16 you are certainly NOT overreacting! I would be LIVID!

mdguy	28-Jan-08 18:35:29 I stand by what I told you: NOT overreacting. Al's a minor, friend or no friend.

scientificseductress	28-Jan-08 21:11:19 definitely not overreacting hon. What your 'friend' did was morally reprehensible. You really need to let 'em know what's what. Other than that I agree with most of what's been said above me. Sorry you had to have this happen to you and your son.

shesez	29-Jan-08 9:07:59 even if your son was not under age this is a pic from YOUR friend...it'd be like his friends showing you pics of them..i just don't feel you mix with friends children on an intimate level even if they aren't xxxxxxxx. at least not without the parents permission. if it upset you, that's all that matters..then it's wrong.

Shraven	29-Jan-08 13:42:09 Jacq... Your not over reacting. What you are facing is a predator who is after your child. I was molested severly in my early teens and it went on for years. You have shown incredible character in wanting to protect your child. You need to be very careful in watching for signs that this man has further intentions towards your son.

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