Team Sleep's blog post - crossdressers, transvestites, femmes, drag queens, panty boys...

I love them.

not only are they super hot... because they are

but they and I have something in common.

a lot of people think that drag is about dressing up in clothes of the opposite gender. I don't think that's true. I think drag is about *performing* gender, to the extreme.

people who do drag know that many stereotypical "male" and "female" behaviours have more to do with society's ideas of masculinity and femininity than they do with what genitals we're born with. so, it can be freeing to play around with these behaviours that are normally unexpected and frowned upon in society. men doing female drag tend to go over the top, and women doing male drag adopt a macho swagger and ridiculous facial hair.

I personally like to perform female drag.

I have been asked how it is possible to be a "drag queen" if you are born a woman. yes, I have a vagina and yes, I identify as female in real life. but I don't *perform* that way. it's hard to explain without throwing gender theory at you, but let's summarize by saying that while I am a biological female, I don't do a lot of things that are stereotyped as female behaviours. in real life I am super low maintenance and fairly androgynous. at times I embody the stereotypical "dyke" with my appearance and mannerisms, according to others. but I am not a dyke. mostly, I just enjoy not being considered conventionally sexy by most people, though I still attract many very sexy partners.

in fact, I think I am very sexy the way I am, and my personal version of sexiness doesn't usually include long perfect hair, stiletto heels, makeup or slinky lingerie, nor does it include overtly feminine mannerisms. when I perform femininity, I look at all those stereotypically female behaviours and decide which ones appeal to me for whatever reason. I try them on for size and see how they make me feel. I experiment with others and gauge how they react to me this way. I look at my body and the new ways it is being showcased to the world. this is not "me". these behaviours are not part of my core identity. this is a small part of my sexuality that I am emphasizing and exaggerating for a few hours, or perhaps an evening.

I think this must be the same for male drag queens. the fact that I happen to have a vagina doesn't make me too much different from a drag queen, except I don't have to work as hard to get rid of facial hair.

NN is to me what a drag performance is to a queen... a chance to explore the fabulousness of femininity. sometimes the results are extremely arousing and hot, other times they're hilarious, still others they're curious and strange. but it is a fun way to explore that side of myself... a side I almost never show to others.