My first girlfriend was an amazing woman
7-Apr-17 15:21
When I was very young (Ok, in high school) I met a girl from a neighboring town at a party neither one of us were supposed to be at. She was a little overweight, had gorgeous ample breasts and long, flaming, coppery metallic red hair. She wore these big library glasses and was a bit self conscious. But when she laughed, her blue green eyes would light up the room. I was a young kid with overflowing testosterone, thick glasses and braces. For some reason, we found ourselves making each other laugh, and then it got to be silly laughing. We'd had a couple of beers and neither one of us drank much, so I'm sure that contributed.
By the time the party split up (someone's parents appeared to be coming home a day early - we scrammed) she and I had been spending most of the evening making out and grinding in the corner. Apparently our horniness had inspired others, and there were later stories of wet squishy sounds coming from bathrooms and side halls - all other people. I do remember walking in to an unlocked bathroom to find a couple with pants open and hands very busy - she was moaning and he looked terrified even though his cock was like a telephone pole.Stuff like that.
I got her name but had no idea how to contact her. A few days later, I heard from some friends that she couldn't stop talking about me, and so they got contact information. Turns out that she was two years older than I. We phoned each other and she drove down (I didn't even have a driver's license yet)
Long story short, we both fell head over heels and that began the first real relationship either of us had ever had. It stayed hot and loving for a year, until after she left to go to college; she ended up on the West Coast and we lost track of each other.
We were both very, very careful for all the right reasons and a few of the wrong ones. We were both practicing Catholics at the time and so all that guilt shit had us both in leather collars. But we learned the art of creative masturbation, learned how to be free in touching each other, learned about respecting personal space and became adept at sexually charged cuddling.
In retrospect, it must seem really tame and weak to recount this relationship - we never actually had penetrative or oral sex. But what we did have was amazing and for me, the timing at a critical part of my adolescence was important. I learned from her how natural and how liberating a truly loving, considerate and playful relationship could be. Unknowingly, she provided me with a context within which my later relationships of all kinds with women, would develop. I was truly happy and felt excited for the future, understanding that the world included people like her.
I love my wife deeply, and even with our sexual dysfunctions we still have the most intimate relationship I've ever had with anyone. But my first girlfriend taught me not to be afraid to be vulnerable and to love. Sex was in the air all the time, of course. But love ruled the day with that woman, plain and simple. I will always be grateful for the privilege of knowing her.